Lifelong Love

How Do I Make Valentine’s Day A Happy Occasion?

Valentine’s Day, oh, Valentine’s Day.  We love you.  We hate you.  All the potential… all the pressure.  Especially in a long-term relationship… very few of which get through 5 or 10 or 20 Februaries without some “Ghosts of Valentines Past” haunting them and making both partners gunshy for the next.

How Do I Get My Partner To Open Up?

I used to ask him, “how was your day?”
“Good.”
Not that helpful.
When he seemed grumpy or withdrawn, I’d ask him, “What’s going on?”
He’d feel interrogated…. No matter how gentle I’d thought I had sounded.

What if we talked about sex and love?

Picture this: you scroll through your Instagram feed, and the self-portraits are grown women, glowing in the full presence and tingling invigoration brought on by the delicious sex they’ve been having regularly… and they say a little about that. Nothing voyeuristic, mind you… Just like, “Loving the way John and I are connecting… I think it’s good for my complexion, too!”