You're allowed to need time (even lots and lots of time) alone in order to be balanced and happy.  Even when you love someone.  You're allowed to want things they don't yet know how to give you.  Even when you love them.

I'm here to help both of you have a peaceful and joyful way of moving through a review process that lets you capture the gems from the past year, set intentions for the coming year, and keep your relationship on a powerful trajectory.

Here’s why gift-giving in relationships can get so frustrating and what you can do to feel successful, to have your partner feel loved, and to be closer than ever after this holiday season

What should you do when you have been asking for what you need and you find yourself asking, “Am I an idiot for staying when I’ve made it clear what I need and my partner doesn’t seem to be changing?”

I’ve helped many people look at how they can know “The One”when they find them - or already have them.  From decades of experience with this question, I’ve distilled five key indicators that help you know that your partner is or isn’t The One for you.  

There was a time when my husband and I were paying $850 a session to get help with our marriage.  

We’d gone to the big dog: Terry Real, the author of How Can I Get Through to You? among others.  Kurt and I knew he had our number.

Can people who are afraid of commitment fall in love? How might their commitment issues hinder their relationship? Can they overcome these issues? How?

Our conversations with our partners are among the most important activities in our lives.  They can also be among the most emotionally activating experiences!  These conversations shape how we feel about the relationship and about ourselves, and they either produce clarity, connection, and concrete, useful actions going forward… or leave us mired in frustration, sadness, anger or all of the above.  

If you want your relationship to last and thrive, take a close look at the 10 patterns that most often undermine relationships - even good ones - and pick one to obliterate right now.

Will your love for your partner last? Here are some questions whose answers may help you see down the road based on my professional experience as a relationship coach.

I was an executive coach for many years and worked with a wide variety of leaders. Some, of course, found their marriages suffering from neglect that they considered all-but-inevitable given the demands of their careers. The scope of my work, in that first decade and a half, was holistic, but our focus was on their leadership, not on their relationship.

Love dies a thousand deaths.  Sensuality dies a thousand deaths.  In a long life together, it will die and grow cold and be buried… Unless you REFUSE to let it.

15 years ago today, my parents escorted me to a sun-dappled clearing in the woods to meet Kurt and his parents at an altar he and I had built together.  I was not transferred like property:  I partnered with this man, and our union joined our families together, with the support and celebration of 150 dear friends and family from across the country.

He used to blow up.  A lot.  And so would I.  For a long time…. Years, really… I thought it was just an inexorable part of our special brand of fucked-up-ness.