After I caught a firsthand glimpse of what recovery looks like from one of my clients in late 2017, I have systematically, one compulsion at a time, been bricking off the familiar exits from the full sensations of the present.

Do you ever get the feeling your partner is relating more to someone from her past – say, his mom or her big brother – than to you?  Like you do something and the reaction is out of proportion or out of sync with what you did, as if some old junk is getting triggered?