026: The Doormat-Bulldog Cycle In Relationships Part II

EPISODE SHOW NOTES

In this episode, we're having the conversation we need to have about the four keys to creating more of the heat and connection you want and the single practice I use to help couples expand all four things in their relationship, and in so doing, create the love and sex they really deserve.

If you've had a hard time initiating sex, or taking your partner up on their invitations, when they ask in the way they ask, even though you sincerely would like to have more sex, at least in the abstract, this is for you. 

Or if you aren't sure how to ask for more of what you want or you think your partner could build more skill at touching and being present sexually, but it's hard to describe what that skillfulness would look like...This is for you. 

Or if you notice that you have a hard time staying present in erotic situations: truly letting your partner in and allowing yourself to deeply receive their attention, their touch, and their care...This is for you. 

If you face those challenges, you are in very good company. Nobody taught any of us how to have great sex, and a nourishing partnership with a grown up in these changing bodies and with these adult responsibilities: aging parents and growing kids and big careers....While we're trying to build a better world. It's a lot!  

And I am determined that today's episode will help, because I would like you to get a handle on these four keys, so you can unlock the best sex of your lives. I know it's still ahead of you, whether you believe that yet or not. And in this episode, you will learn how to create it. 

There are four things that dramatically accelerate a couple's ability to go deeper in love and sex. They include clarity, capacity, communication, and container, we're going to go into all four of them. So let's dive in.  


In this episode:

  • Why getting to the amount and quality of sex we want has gotten trickier, even if we used to be really great together

  • The four things we need in order to take things deeper in sex and closeness

  • The ONLY four things you need to convey to your partner during sex to keep things hot

And more.


Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response inside our free Conscious Couples’ Society on Mighty Networks.

"Nobody taught us how to have great sex and a nourishing partnership with a grown-up in these changing bodies and with these adult responsibilities: aging parents and growing kids and big careers....While we're trying to build a better world. It's a lot!"

- Michele Lisenbury Christensen 

HOT MOMENTS IN THIS EPISODE:

  • Four things that dramatically accelerate a couple's ability to go deeper in love and sex 2:24

  • Expanding your clarity for erotic connection with yourself and your partner 4:01

  • How do we know we had sex? 5:39

  • Four things to be able to have the best sex of your lives 13:18

  • Make an offer instead of trying to read your partner’s mind 15:13




I wish for you the best love and erotic connection that you can imagine. And I would love to hear about it as you create it. My wish for you and for our community is that you'll join the conversation over on the Conscious Couples' Circle at society.lisenbury.com. It's a great place to ask your questions, share your experiences, and join the conversation about creating the love and sex that you deeply desire in ways that evolve you both. That's all happening at society.lisenbury.com.




RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Sex.Love.Power Episode 23 - Talking About Sex




RECOMMENDED BOOKS:

She Comes First by Ian Kerner

Women’s Anatomy of Arousal by Sheri Winston

Slow Sex by Nicole Daedone

Extended Massive Orgasm by Steve & Vera Bodansky



If you want support and guidance from me to create the kind of love and s€x you dream of having, and to clear out any muck that blocks you from that experience, reach out.





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Now if you’re feeling ultra-loving, I would be profoundly grateful if you left a review for me over on iTunes, too. 

5-star reviews help more women find my podcast -  and thereby have better love  and sex - and your review will also be so fun for me to go in and read!  Totally your good deed for the day!  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know your favorite thing about  the podcast. Thank you so much!

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025: TOO Nice: The Doormat-Bulldog Cycle In Relationships

EPISODE SHOW NOTES

In this episode, we're having the conversation we need to have about the four keys to creating more of the heat and connection you want and the single practice I use to help couples expand all four things in their relationship, and in so doing, create the love and sex they really deserve.

If you've had a hard time initiating sex, or taking your partner up on their invitations, when they ask in the way they ask, even though you sincerely would like to have more sex, at least in the abstract, this is for you. 

Or if you aren't sure how to ask for more of what you want or you think your partner could build more skill at touching and being present sexually, but it's hard to describe what that skillfulness would look like...This is for you. 

Or if you notice that you have a hard time staying present in erotic situations: truly letting your partner in and allowing yourself to deeply receive their attention, their touch, and their care...This is for you. 

If you face those challenges, you are in very good company. Nobody taught any of us how to have great sex, and a nourishing partnership with a grown up in these changing bodies and with these adult responsibilities: aging parents and growing kids and big careers....While we're trying to build a better world. It's a lot!  

And I am determined that today's episode will help, because I would like you to get a handle on these four keys, so you can unlock the best sex of your lives. I know it's still ahead of you, whether you believe that yet or not. And in this episode, you will learn how to create it. 

There are four things that dramatically accelerate a couple's ability to go deeper in love and sex. They include clarity, capacity, communication, and container, we're going to go into all four of them. So let's dive in.  


In this episode:

  • Why getting to the amount and quality of sex we want has gotten trickier, even if we used to be really great together

  • The four things we need in order to take things deeper in sex and closeness

  • The ONLY four things you need to convey to your partner during sex to keep things hot

And more.


Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response inside our free Conscious Couples’ Society on Mighty Networks.

"Nobody taught us how to have great sex and a nourishing partnership with a grown-up in these changing bodies and with these adult responsibilities: aging parents and growing kids and big careers....While we're trying to build a better world. It's a lot!"

- Michele Lisenbury Christensen 

HOT MOMENTS IN THIS EPISODE:

  • Four things that dramatically accelerate a couple's ability to go deeper in love and sex 2:24

  • Expanding your clarity for erotic connection with yourself and your partner 4:01

  • How do we know we had sex? 5:39

  • Four things to be able to have the best sex of your lives 13:18

  • Make an offer instead of trying to read your partner’s mind 15:13




I wish for you the best love and erotic connection that you can imagine. And I would love to hear about it as you create it. My wish for you and for our community is that you'll join the conversation over on the Conscious Couples' Circle at society.lisenbury.com. It's a great place to ask your questions, share your experiences, and join the conversation about creating the love and sex that you deeply desire in ways that evolve you both. That's all happening at Conscious Couples’ Circle.




RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Sex.Love.Power Episode 23 - Talking About Sex




RECOMMENDED BOOKS:

She Comes First by Ian Kerner

Women’s Anatomy of Arousal by Sheri Winston

Slow Sex by Nicole Daedone

Extended Massive Orgasm by Steve & Vera Bodansky



If you want support and guidance from me to create the kind of love and s€x you dream of having, and to clear out any muck that blocks you from that experience, reach out.





CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE FREE AND PRIVATE CONSCIOUS COUPLES’ CIRCLE. I CREATED THE CONSCIOUS COUPLES’ CIRCLE TO GIVE POWERFUL WOMEN AND THE PEOPLE WHO LOVE THEM A CONFIDENTIAL, AD-FREE PLACE TO ENGAGE IN THE VITAL CONVERSATIONS WE SEED WITH THE PODCAST EVERY WEEK, AND SO MUCH MORE COMMUNITY SUPPORT FOR GROWING THE HABITS THAT WILL BUILD THE LOVE AND SEX YOU REALLY WANT.

Click here to listen to this episode.

Subscribe & Review in iTunes Now

Are you subscribed to my podcast? If you’re not, I want to encourage you to do that today. I don’t want you to miss an episode. I’m adding a bunch of bonus episodes to the mix and if you’re not subscribed there’s a good chance you’ll miss out on those. Click here to subscribe in iTunes!

Now if you’re feeling ultra-loving, I would be profoundly grateful if you left a review for me over on iTunes, too. 

5-star reviews help more women find my podcast -  and thereby have better love  and sex - and your review will also be so fun for me to go in and read!  Totally your good deed for the day!  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know your favorite thing about  the podcast. Thank you so much!

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024: Expanding Erotic Intelligence

EPISODE SHOW NOTES

In this episode, we're having the conversation we need to have about the four keys to creating more of the heat and connection you want and the single practice I use to help couples expand all four things in their relationship, and in so doing, create the love and sex they really deserve.

If you've had a hard time initiating sex, or taking your partner up on their invitations, when they ask in the way they ask, even though you sincerely would like to have more sex, at least in the abstract, this is for you. 

Or if you aren't sure how to ask for more of what you want or you think your partner could build more skill at touching and being present sexually, but it's hard to describe what that skillfulness would look like...This is for you. 

Or if you notice that you have a hard time staying present in erotic situations: truly letting your partner in and allowing yourself to deeply receive their attention, their touch, and their care...This is for you. 

If you face those challenges, you are in very good company. Nobody taught any of us how to have great sex, and a nourishing partnership with a grown up in these changing bodies and with these adult responsibilities: aging parents and growing kids and big careers....While we're trying to build a better world. It's a lot!  

And I am determined that today's episode will help, because I would like you to get a handle on these four keys, so you can unlock the best sex of your lives. I know it's still ahead of you, whether you believe that yet or not. And in this episode, you will learn how to create it. 

There are four things that dramatically accelerate a couple's ability to go deeper in love and sex. They include clarity, capacity, communication, and container, we're going to go into all four of them. So let's dive in.  


In this episode:

  • Why getting to the amount and quality of sex we want has gotten trickier, even if we used to be really great together

  • The four things we need in order to take things deeper in sex and closeness

  • The ONLY four things you need to convey to your partner during sex to keep things hot

And more.


Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response inside our free Conscious Couples’ Circle on Mighty Networks.

"Nobody taught us how to have great sex and a nourishing partnership with a grown-up in these changing bodies and with these adult responsibilities: aging parents and growing kids and big careers....While we're trying to build a better world. It's a lot!"

- Michele Lisenbury Christensen 

HOT MOMENTS IN THIS EPISODE:

  • Four things that dramatically accelerate a couple's ability to go deeper in love and sex 2:24

  • Expanding your clarity for erotic connection with yourself and your partner 4:01

  • How do we know we had sex? 5:39

  • Four things to be able to have the best sex of your lives 13:18

  • Make an offer instead of trying to read your partner’s mind 15:13




I wish for you the best love and erotic connection that you can imagine. And I would love to hear about it as you create it. My wish for you and for our community is that you'll join the conversation over on the Conscious Couples' Circle. It's a great place to ask your questions, share your experiences, and join the conversation about creating the love and sex that you deeply desire in ways that evolve you both. That's all happening at Conscious Couples' Circle.




RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Sex.Love.Power Episode 23 - Talking About Sex




RECOMMENDED BOOKS:

She Comes First by Ian Kerner

Women’s Anatomy of Arousal by Sheri Winston

Slow Sex by Nicole Daedone

Extended Massive Orgasm by Steve & Vera Bodansky



If you want support and guidance from me to create the kind of love and s€x you dream of having, and to clear out any muck that blocks you from that experience, reach out.

CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE FREE AND PRIVATE CONSCIOUS COUPLES’ CIRCLE (IT’S ON MIGHTY NETWORKS, NOT FACEBOOK!). I CREATED THE CONSCIOUS COUPLES’ CIRCLE TO GIVE POWERFUL WOMEN AND THE PEOPLE WHO LOVE THEM A CONFIDENTIAL, AD-FREE PLACE TO ENGAGE IN THE VITAL CONVERSATIONS WE SEED WITH THE PODCAST EVERY WEEK, AND SO MUCH MORE COMMUNITY SUPPORT FOR GROWING THE HABITS THAT WILL BUILD THE LOVE AND SEX YOU REALLY WANT.

Click here to listen to this episode.

Subscribe & Review in iTunes Now

Are you subscribed to my podcast? If you’re not, I want to encourage you to do that today. I don’t want you to miss an episode. I’m adding a bunch of bonus episodes to the mix and if you’re not subscribed there’s a good chance you’ll miss out on those. Click here to subscribe in iTunes!

Now if you’re feeling ultra-loving, I would be profoundly grateful if you left a review for me over on iTunes, too. 

5-star reviews help more women find my podcast -  and thereby have better love  and sex - and your review will also be so fun for me to go in and read!  Totally your good deed for the day!  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know your favorite thing about  the podcast. Thank you so much!

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023: Talking About Sex

EPISODE SHOW NOTES

If you want something different in the bedroom but don’t know how to bring it up...  

If you have a hard time wrapping your mouth around any of the words for sex acts or body parts...

If your partner has been uncomfortable with you talking about the sex you two have or don’t have...

This episode is for you.  

We NEED to have this conversation about conversations about sex - how meta is that? - because in our puritanical-yet-sex-saturated culture, we have been taught  that  it’s not “nice” to talk about sex… but also that we’re supposed to have great sex… in the absence of talking about it! 


We're going to talk about 

  • How we change the world every time we talk openly about the s3x we really want

  • The 3 steps to successfully starting a conversation about physical intimacy

  • The 3 keys to listening well when your partner is telling you about their experience of s3x with you and their desires

  • How to ask for something different without hurt feelings

  • The six kinds of s3xual language and when you might want to use each one

And more.

Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response inside our free Conscious Couples’ Circle on Mighty Networks.

"We dismantle oppressive systems when we talk openly and skillfully about sex. This is how we tear down our repressive body-numbing, live-in-our-heads culture."

- Michele Lisenbury Christensen 

Hot Moments in This Episode:

  • Why getting comfortable talking about sex is a gift to your kids 3:48

  • When NOT to try to talk about what you want different in sex 5:30 

  • The steps to bringing up a discussion about sex 6:25

  • The best practices for listening well when talking about sex 7:30

  • Two things to remember when talking about s3x 8:36

  • The six kind of words we use in talking about s3x  10:21

Thank you so much for listening. I'm Michele Lisenbury Christensen. My wish for you AND for our community is that you’ll join the conversation over at Conscious Couples’ Circle. It’s a great place to ask your questions, share your experiences, and join the conversation about creating the love and sex we deeply desire in ways that evolve us both. It’s all happening at Conscious Couples’ Circle. That link is in the shownotes at lisenbury.com/episode/024.

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

https://lisenbury.com/blog/reclaim-the-word-pussy



If you want support and guidance from me to create the kind of love and s€x you dream of having, and to clear out any muck that blocks you from that experience, reach out.


CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE FREE AND PRIVATE CONSCIOUS COUPLES’ CIRCLE (IT’S ON MIGHTY NETWORKS, NOT FACEBOOK!). I CREATED THE CONSCIOUS COUPLES’ CIRCLE TO GIVE POWERFUL WOMEN AND THE PEOPLE WHO LOVE THEM A CONFIDENTIAL, AD-FREE PLACE TO ENGAGE IN THE VITAL CONVERSATIONS WE SEED WITH THE PODCAST EVERY WEEK, AND SO MUCH MORE COMMUNITY SUPPORT FOR GROWING THE HABITS THAT WILL BUILD THE LOVE AND SEX YOU REALLY WANT.

Click here to listen to this episode.

Subscribe & Review in iTunes Now

Are you subscribed to my podcast? If you’re not, I want to encourage you to do that today. I don’t want you to miss an episode. I’m adding a bunch of bonus episodes to the mix and if you’re not subscribed there’s a good chance you’ll miss out on those. Click here to subscribe in iTunes!

Now if you’re feeling ultra-loving, I would be profoundly grateful if you left a review for me over on iTunes, too. 

5-star reviews help more women find my podcast -  and thereby have better love  and sex - and your review will also be so fun for me to go in and read!  Totally your good deed for the day!  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know your favorite thing about  the podcast. Thank you so much!

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022: Poorly Timed Conversations

EPISODE SHOW NOTES

Conversations that go sideways are almost always ill-fated before they even begin.  And the majority of those we could pretty easily predict will go badly do so because of one common factor:  POOR TIMING.  One of you was not ready to have THAT conversation right THEN.  And nobody asked about this.  Or they did ask whether it was a good time, but they didn’t like the answer, so they went ahead anyway!  I’ve been guilty of that, myself.  And always lived to regret it!

So today I’m out to eliminate some of those regrets from all our lives by talking about how to time a conversation, how to ask “is now a good time?” and what to do when someone asks you that.  Then we’ll look at how to deal with your partner’s response and what becomes possible inside your relationship and inside each of you when you build this skill.

We're going to talk about 

  • Four big reasons we resist choosing a good time for a conversation

  • What becomes possible when we create well-timed conversations with full consent from both parties

  • How you can ask for a good time to talk and how to deal with getting a reply of "not now" if that's maybe a little hard to hear (I know it is for me!) 

  • How to say "not now," if that's the right thing for you, and how to know when it IS 

  • How to get through the urge to talk before your partner's ready, and

  • How to ensure that you do circle back to an important conversation if there's one that's waiting to happen. 

And more. By the end of this episode, you're going to feel clearer and more confident about communicating with your partner, creating powerful conversations simply by having them when you're both ready.



Join the conversation by listening, then share your story, response, or questions inside our free Conscious Couples Circle on Mighty Networks. You can also join us live inside the Conscious Couples’ Circle for our weekly Episode Soiree. Details are inside the Circle. C’mon over!

"If you're holding wisdom that this isn't a good time, hold your ground. Do not be coerced into the conversation."

- Michele Lisenbury Christensen 

Hot Moments in This Episode:

  • Why do we resist choosing a good time for a conversation?  2:17

  • 4 good reasons reasons we can’t help but ambush our partners, ready or not, with topics we want to talk about  2:35

  • How the 32 Degree Rule stops us from having conversations when we’re too upset (and from putting them off too long!) 3:13

  • How do I ask my partner for a conversation? How do I know whether it's a good time to talk? And how do we get to an agreement? And what do I do if my partner says no?  11:45

  • Why your partner resists having the conversation you think is so important and urgent 14:05

  • How to circle back if your partner said “we can talk about this later” but they haven’t brought it back up 16:59

Thank you so much for listening. I'm Michele Lisenbury Christensen. We’d love to have your stories and questions enriching the community over on Conscious Couples’ Circle. It’s a great place to get specific tips, share your experiences, and join the larger conversation about creating the love and sex we deeply desire in ways that evolve you both. It’s all happening at society.lisenbury.com. That link is in the shownotes at lisenbury.com/episode/022.

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Episodes 6: Self-Regulation Toolkit Part 1
Episodes 7: Self-Regulation Toolkit Part 2



If you want support and guidance from me to create the kind of love and s€x you dream of having, and to clear out any muck that blocks you from that experience, reach out.


CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE FREE AND PRIVATE CONSCIOUS COUPLES’ CIRCLE (IT’S ON MIGHTY NETWORKS, NOT FACEBOOK!). I CREATED THE CONSCIOUS COUPLES’ CIRCLE TO GIVE POWERFUL WOMEN AND THE PEOPLE WHO LOVE THEM A CONFIDENTIAL, AD-FREE PLACE TO ENGAGE IN THE VITAL CONVERSATIONS WE SEED WITH THE PODCAST EVERY WEEK, AND SO MUCH MORE COMMUNITY SUPPORT FOR GROWING THE HABITS THAT WILL BUILD THE LOVE AND SEX YOU REALLY WANT.

Click here to listen to this episode.

Subscribe & Review in iTunes Now

Are you subscribed to my podcast? If you’re not, I want to encourage you to do that today. I don’t want you to miss an episode. I’m adding a bunch of bonus episodes to the mix and if you’re not subscribed there’s a good chance you’ll miss out on those. Click here to subscribe in iTunes!

Now if you’re feeling ultra-loving, I would be profoundly grateful if you left a review for me over on iTunes, too. 

5-star reviews help more women find my podcast -  and thereby have better love  and sex - and your review will also be so fun for me to go in and read!  Totally your good deed for the day!  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know your favorite thing about  the podcast. Thank you so much!

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021: Love Lessons from High Performing Leaders Part 2

EPISODE SHOW NOTES

Couples with really GREAT - not just GOOD - marriages do things differently. This episode - the second in a two-part series - shares the 12 keys my clients with Legacy Love marriages have taught me. These are the keys to a love and a passion that gets deeper, hotter, and sweeter every year, and leaves behind a legacy that outlasts you both.

In this episode:

  • We’ll look at the 12 keys that differentiate struggling or even “good” relationships from the GREAT relationships built by high-performing leaders committed to continuous improvement in love

  • I’ll show you how to leverage non-sexy things like schedules, finances, and chore-sharing to help make room for more heat  and intimacy in your marriage

  • You’ll learn the truth about who gets the most “help” with their marriage (it’s not who you would think!)

  • I’ll talk about what death and loss have to do with staying happy together for a lifetime

And more.



Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples’ Circle on Mighty Networks.

"The hardest part about a shared loss is that no two people grieve the same way. The most resilient couples grieve losses together - even though they each grieve in their own way. They find ways to honor the differences between their ways of processing. They don’t make one another wrong for grieving differently."

- Michele Lisenbury Christensen 

Hot Moments in This Episode:

  • What already-successful couples do to co-create an extraordinary relationship. 1:38

  • They grow together  1:43

  • They nail the systems  3:11

  • They get support to keep on growing  4:04

  • They pay it forward 5:03

  • They know the sky is the limit 5:37

  • They bust out of their comfort zones 7:08

  • They roll through the natural changes of life together 8:08

  • They embrace their inevitable parting with equanimity 11:41

Thank you so much for listening. I'm Michele Lisenbury Christensen. We’d love to have your stories and questions enriching the community over on The Conscious Couples Circle. It’s a great place to get specific tips, share your experiences, and join the larger conversation about creating the love and sex we deeply desire in ways that evolve you both. It’s all happening at society.lisenbury.com. That link is in the shownotes at lisenbury.com/episode/021.



If you want support and guidance from me to create the kind of love and s€x you dream of having, and to clear out any muck that blocks you from that experience, reach out.


CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE FREE AND PRIVATE CONSCIOUS COUPLES’ CIRCLE (IT’S ON MIGHTY NETWORKS, NOT FACEBOOK!). I CREATED THE CONSCIOUS COUPLES’ CIRCLE TO GIVE POWERFUL WOMEN AND THE PEOPLE WHO LOVE THEM A CONFIDENTIAL, AD-FREE PLACE TO ENGAGE IN THE VITAL CONVERSATIONS WE SEED WITH THE PODCAST EVERY WEEK, AND SO MUCH MORE COMMUNITY SUPPORT FOR GROWING THE HABITS THAT WILL BUILD THE LOVE AND SEX YOU REALLY WANT.

Click here to listen to this episode.

Subscribe & Review in iTunes Now

Are you subscribed to my podcast? If you’re not, I want to encourage you to do that today. I don’t want you to miss an episode. I’m adding a bunch of bonus episodes to the mix and if you’re not subscribed there’s a good chance you’ll miss out on those. Click here to subscribe in iTunes!

Now if you’re feeling ultra-loving, I would be profoundly grateful if you left a review for me over on iTunes, too. 

5-star reviews help more women find my podcast -  and thereby have better love  and sex - and your review will also be so fun for me to go in and read!  Totally your good deed for the day!  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know your favorite thing about  the podcast. Thank you so much!

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020: Love Lessons from High Performing Leaders Part 1

EPISODE SHOW NOTES

This episode tells the strange path I took to becoming a relationship mentor for high-performing leaders: People whose relationships were already great INSISTED that I help them make their marriages even better! I’ve learned so much from my clients that runs counter to other marriage guidance and that’s helped elevate my own marriage. In this episode, I’m boiling down the love lessons I’ve learned from high-performance leaders.

In this episode:

  • You’ll learn why common “marriage guru” advice often doesn’t meet all the needs of busy, ambitious leader couples

  • I’ll share how my favorite executive coaching clients talked me into relationship coaching (even though I didn’t think they needed it, at first!)

  • I’ll share the 12 keys my clients with already-great relationships have taught me can unlock an amazing relationship for life, and that you can use solo

And more.



Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples’ Circle on Mighty Networks.

"The best marriages unplug us from clocks every day. They build a shelter from the busy world and from the culture. They create a place in which both partners can fully come alive the way we did when we were new lovers."

- Michele Lisenbury Christensen 

It would astonish me when those same leaders whose marriages were the strongest, who made the best use of my leadership coaching, were the ones who turned to me unbidden to talk about their marriages "relationship experts" who got that way by helping people whose relationships are struggling will teach tools designed to help you cope with relationship struggles. My Legacy Love Process - learned from coaching high-performance people who had great relationships - teach you how to go from good to great in love and sex.

The strongest couples seek the most support.

“Our culture pushes us to be in our heads, thinking and talking and watching and absorbing through screens, To have the love and the pleasure we really want, we need to be in touch with the energy and sensations of our bodies and with our needs for rest, food, nature, movement, sex, and transcendence.”

“The best marriages unplug us from clocks every day. They build a shelter from the busy world and from the culture. They create a place in which both partners can fully come alive the way we did when we were new lovers.”

The happiest couples really focus on their own individual relationship skills.

Hot Moments in This Episode:

  • The difference between leaders whose big jobs put their relationships on  the back burner and leaders who excel both in their careers and their marriages 2:23

  • At first, I was stumped when people with great marriages asked for marriage coaching from me, their executive coach 3:32

  • A paradox about which couples seek the most support. 4:28

  • Growth driven leaders seek growth everywhere. 6:45

  • Satisfying relationships have weaknesses, difficult relationships have strengths 8:02

  • Intense people, powerful people have different relationship challenge 9:14

  • The very best marriages are deeply subversive 11:44

  • The individual keys to relationship happiness 13:50

Thank you so much for listening. I'm Michele Lisenbury Christensen. I hope you can see some of yourself in these habits of the happiest people in relationship, and that you’ll find one or two new ideas you’re inspired to act upon to build even more strength and ease in your relationship.

My wish for you AND for our community is that you’ll join the conversation over on The Secret Society at society.lisenbury.com is a great place to ask your questions, share your experiences, and join the conversation about creating the love and sex we deeply desire in ways that evolve us both. It’s all happening at Conscious Couples’ Circle. That link is in the show notes at lisenbury.com/episode/020.


If you want support and guidance from me to create the kind of love and s€x you dream of having, and to clear out any muck that blocks you from that experience, reach out.


CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE FREE AND PRIVATE CONSCIOUS COUPLES’ CIRCLE (IT’S ON MIGHTY NETWORKS, NOT FACEBOOK!). I CREATED THE CONSCIOUS COUPLES’ CIRCLE TO GIVE POWERFUL WOMEN AND THE PEOPLE WHO LOVE THEM A CONFIDENTIAL, AD-FREE PLACE TO ENGAGE IN THE VITAL CONVERSATIONS WE SEED WITH THE PODCAST EVERY WEEK, AND SO MUCH MORE COMMUNITY SUPPORT FOR GROWING THE HABITS THAT WILL BUILD THE LOVE AND SEX YOU REALLY WANT.

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Now if you’re feeling ultra-loving, I would be profoundly grateful if you left a review for me over on iTunes, too. 

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019: Couple Goals

EPISODE SHOW NOTES

When you’re all excited about setting goals and creating amazing plans for the new year for yourself in areas like your health, your career, your home, and your adventures (please tell me it’ll be safe SOMETIME in 2021 to get on an airplane?!) do you wish you could up and MAKE great things happen in your marriage? You can. It works a little differently than other areas of life - especially if you’re like most people and cross your arms, giving your partner side-eye waiting for them to change - but creating exponential growth in your closeness, your intimacy, your ease, and your communication is absolutely doable. This episode will show you how.

In this episode:

  • We’ll look at why it’s so hard to put a relationship desire on “goal” status

  • I’ll show you how to look back and see which repeated behaviors created the relationship you have today

  • And we’ll pick the lock on the love & sex you WANT to have bz identifying the kinds of habits that you can cultivate in the new year that will build precisely the relationship you long for 

And more.



Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples’ Circle on Mighty Networks.

"When you know how to map a path from here to there in love, then legacy love- the kind of love that not only lasts a lifetime, but touches others long after your life- that kind of legacy love that you desire will be inevitable."

- Michele Lisenbury Christensen 

Hot Moments in This Episode:

  • Make your relationship fantastic by learning the right habits 01:43

  • Unlock the key to love & sex 02:32

  • Why embracing the process of goal setting and welcoming our partner's energies is vital 4:14

  • Discover how we create negative change in our relationships (& how not to do it) 07:40

  • Create the relationship you long for by cultivating these new habits 10:11

Thank you so much for listening. I'm Michele Lisenbury Christensen. My wish for you AND for our community is that you’ll join the conversation over on Conscious Couples’ Circle, it is a great place to ask your questions, share your experiences, and join the conversation about creating the love and sex we deeply desire in ways that evolve us both. It’s all happening at society.lisenbury.com. That link is in the shownotes at lisenbury.com/episode/019.


If you want support and guidance from me to create the kind of love and s€x you dream of having, and to clear out any muck that blocks you from that experience, reach out.


CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE FREE AND PRIVATE CONSCIOUS COUPLES’ CIRCLE (IT’S ON MIGHTY NETWORKS, NOT FACEBOOK!). I CREATED THE CONSCIOUS COUPLES’ CIRCLE TO GIVE POWERFUL WOMEN AND THE PEOPLE WHO LOVE THEM A CONFIDENTIAL, AD-FREE PLACE TO ENGAGE IN THE VITAL CONVERSATIONS WE SEED WITH THE PODCAST EVERY WEEK, AND SO MUCH MORE COMMUNITY SUPPORT FOR GROWING THE HABITS THAT WILL BUILD THE LOVE AND SEX YOU REALLY WANT.

Click here to listen to this episode.

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Are you subscribed to my podcast? If you’re not, I want to encourage you to do that today. I don’t want you to miss an episode. I’m adding a bunch of bonus episodes to the mix and if you’re not subscribed there’s a good chance you’ll miss out on those. Click here to subscribe in iTunes!

Now if you’re feeling ultra-loving, I would be profoundly grateful if you left a review for me over on iTunes, too. 

5-star reviews help more women find my podcast -  and thereby have better love  and sex - and your review will also be so fun for me to go in and read!  Totally your good deed for the day!  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know your favorite thing about  the podcast. Thank you so much!

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018: Hit a Gift-Giving Home Run

EPISODE SHOW NOTES

When you want to really show your partner your love and feel appreciated in turn… You need to hit a homer with your gift or experience.  But how?  So many men, in particular, tell me their partners are hard to please or that gifts and holidays feel like no-win situations.   This is supposed to be a season of joy, and this episode will help you create that.


In this episode:

  • Why gift giving is so frustrating

  • Discover the top 2 reasons gift giving is so stressful

  • Learn what gift giving mistakes NOT to make

  • Uncover the secret 7 steps to make a home run while gift giving

  • What to do when your gift giving doesn’t go as planned

And more. 


Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples’ Circle on Mighty Networks.

"When it comes to gift-giving, you are in a powerful position as a healer: you can draw out of your partner what they really desire and you can help heal those painful places where holidays push their buttons. It's such a beautiful role to play, if you can do so wholeheartedly."

- Michele Lisenbury Christensen 

Hot Moments in This Episode:

  • The mistakes that lead to gift-giving misery 3:04

  • Make the decision to hit a home run 06:34

  • Learn how to start planning in advance. 7:06

  • Why your calendar is your friend 07:24

  • How to teach your beloved how to tell you what they want 11:08

  • Discover what to do when you swing and miss 12:59

  • The perfect questions to ask to bring you closer together 15:58

Thank you so much for listening. I'm Michele Lisenbury Christensen. This has been Sex. Love. Power. I'll be back here next week to help you begin to review 2020 - what a year, right? - and what’s happened in your couple this year, and look at your vision and habits for 2021 and what you desire and intend for your future. Until we speak, may the light within you illuminate the world around you.


If you want support and guidance from me to create the kind of love and s€x you dream of having, and to clear out any muck that blocks you from that experience, reach out.


CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE FREE AND PRIVATE CONSCIOUS COUPLES’ CIRCLE (IT’S ON MIGHTY NETWORKS, NOT FACEBOOK!). I CREATED THE CONSCIOUS COUPLES’ CIRCLE TO GIVE POWERFUL WOMEN AND THE PEOPLE WHO LOVE THEM A CONFIDENTIAL, AD-FREE PLACE TO ENGAGE IN THE VITAL CONVERSATIONS WE SEED WITH THE PODCAST EVERY WEEK, AND SO MUCH MORE COMMUNITY SUPPORT FOR GROWING THE HABITS THAT WILL BUILD THE LOVE AND SEX YOU REALLY WANT.

Click here to listen to this episode.

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Now if you’re feeling ultra-loving, I would be profoundly grateful if you left a review for me over on iTunes, too. 

5-star reviews help more women find my podcast -  and thereby have better love  and sex - and your review will also be so fun for me to go in and read!  Totally your good deed for the day!  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know your favorite thing about  the podcast. Thank you so much!

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017: Planning Together for the Holidays

EPISODE SHOW NOTES

During the holiday season, our most heartfelt visions and highest hopes can be dashed against the reality of others’ engagement level and appreciation level… This episode is designed to help you plan together for a beautiful holiday season that meets each partner’s needs.

This episode spills:

  • The secret of stress free holiday planning

  • How to collaborate with your partner to create the perfect unified celebration

  • The joyful way to celebrate the holidays

  • What NOT to put into your plan for Christmas. The hint: perfect is not always perfection.

And more. 


Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples’ Circle on Mighty Networks.

"The best things about the holidays are not the things that we buy. They're the moments that we share together."

- Michele Lisenbury Christensen 

Hot Moments in This Episode:

  • Holiday planning and my wish for you. 00:50

  • My 5 free pointers on how to plan your holidays effectively 02:40

  • How being collaborative can make your holidays shine 06:15

  • Why using holidays as a test might be a mistake .07:07

  • The importance of being intentional 08:32

  • This part of your holiday celebration that is best left out 11:58

Thank you so much for listening. I'm Michele Lisenbury Christensen, this has been sex, love power. I'll be back here next Thursday with another holiday special episode: this time it’s about gift-giving and how to be successful at it. I don’t wanna point fingers at men, but this episode IS inspired by one of the bonuses for my mens’ program Penetrate Her, because so many men have asked me “how do I WIN at gift giving? It feels like a losing proposition!” So we’ll hit that conversation hard next week! Until then, may the light within you, illuminate the world around you.

You're always invited to ask questions and share your reactions and results from each episode. You can post in the question thread in the private community at Conscious Couples’ Circle or leave us a voicemail at 206-659-9865. My wish for you is that you have a deep, sweet, hot connection in the bedroom, beyond the reaches of cultural pressures, where there’s only the two of you and the magical, mysterious power of pleasure.


If you want support and guidance from me to create the kind of love and s€x you dream of having, and to clear out any muck that blocks you from that experience, reach out.


CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE FREE AND PRIVATE CONSCIOUS COUPLES’ CIRCLE (IT’S ON MIGHTY NETWORKS, NOT FACEBOOK!). I CREATED THE CONSCIOUS COUPLES’ CIRCLE TO GIVE POWERFUL WOMEN AND THE PEOPLE WHO LOVE THEM A CONFIDENTIAL, AD-FREE PLACE TO ENGAGE IN THE VITAL CONVERSATIONS WE SEED WITH THE PODCAST EVERY WEEK, AND SO MUCH MORE COMMUNITY SUPPORT FOR GROWING THE HABITS THAT WILL BUILD THE LOVE AND SEX YOU REALLY WANT.

Click here to listen to this episode.

Subscribe & Review in iTunes Now

Are you subscribed to my podcast? If you’re not, I want to encourage you to do that today. I don’t want you to miss an episode. I’m adding a bunch of bonus episodes to the mix and if you’re not subscribed there’s a good chance you’ll miss out on those. Click here to subscribe in iTunes!

Now if you’re feeling ultra-loving, I would be profoundly grateful if you left a review for me over on iTunes, too. 

5-star reviews help more women find my podcast -  and thereby have better love  and sex - and your review will also be so fun for me to go in and read!  Totally your good deed for the day!  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know your favorite thing about  the podcast. Thank you so much!

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