Must Women Keep Their Desire in Check?

“It's true what they say about women: Women are insatiable.

We are greedy. Our appetites do need to be controlled if things are to stay in place.

“If the world were ours too, if we believed we could get away with it,

we would ask for more love, more sex, more money,

more commitment to children, more food, more care.

“These sexual, emotional, and physical demands would

begin to extend to social demands: payment for care of the

elderly, parental leave, childcare, etc.

“The force of female desire would be so great

that society would truly have to reckon with

what women want, in bed and in the world."

Naomi Wolf , "The Beauty Myth"


Are you greedy?   


What desires do you suppress to try to “prove” you’re not bad?

What desires… in bed?

What desires… financially?

What desires… for service or assistance?

And, by contrast, which desires DO you allow yourself?  Why?  What’s the difference? 

Your desires... should you allow them to come forward... may not turn out to be the craven, insatiable, self-serving beasts you've been told they are --- whether you're a woman or a man --- and, I'll wager, your sensitive and conscious engagement with them will guide you to choices that will serve you well.  And they might just change the world.