EPISODE SHOW NOTES
This is an intense week - amid an intense year - for many people. It highlights the importance of knowing how to nourish ourselves and one another when we’re both running on fumes, highly anxious, or otherwise struggling. Financial strain, kids’ challenges, illness, or loss can precipitate pain and stress for couples under any circumstances. Or right now, a pandemic and a razor-close presidential election make for intense emotions even if all is well in your personal world. So today’s episode is a love note to all couples on how to love one another well when you’re both licking your wounds.
As you listen to this episode, you'll learn:
How to unlock the best of your relationship during these challenging times
The 3 things needed to deepen the connection with your partner
How to use co-regulation to love your partner well, right when they might seem LEAST lovable
How Kurt and I stick together when we’re tempted to snap at one another because of our own states
4 tips of what NOT to do when working on your relationship
And more.
Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples’ Circle on Mighty Networks.
"In these times of high anxiety, you don't need the things you might think you need. You need to feel seen and heard, to be contained. You don't need it fixed. You don't need answers and you don't need to blame your partner."
- Michele Lisenbury Christensen
Hot Moments in This Episode:
Discover how to deepen your connection as a couple during these challenging times. 01:06
Why we forget what we're upset about and make it about our partner. 02:24
Want to know what we actually really need? 04:04
3 ways to receive nourishment from yourself & others 05:05
Learn about co-regulation and how your partner can help you 07:26
So that's what I've learned and I'm still learning and I still need to hear all of this, about how to stick together and hang together through difficult days. I hope this episode brings you some comfort and gave you some actionable ideas for walking through hard times in your life in a way that brings you real partnership with your beloved. And I really hope this is just the beginning of our conversation about this topic. I want to hear more about your experiences and your successes in this area. I wanna hear your inside jokes.
The secret society of turned on women over at society.lisenbury.com is a great place to ask your questions and tell your stories and get more prompts to explore emotional connection and intimacy in this crazy world.
Come join the conversation at Conscious Couples’ Circle. And you can also leave us a voicemail at 206-659-9865. That link and that phone number are in the show notes at Lisenbury.com/episode/012.
RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Episode 6: Self-Regulation Toolkit Part 1 - Response to Freeze State
Episode 7: Self-Regulation Toolkit Part 2 - Fight or Flight
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