EPISODE SHOW NOTES
We’re diving deep into how patriarchy gets into our relationships and messes with both partners, regardless of what gender everyone is. This episode is a response to a beautiful letter from a listener. I look forward to hearing your experiences. What is the role of male privilege in your relationship? How does psychological patriarchy affect the intimacy and aliveness in your relationship? Listen in to hear how I define these terms and what a long-time male listener thought and felt when I said “smash the patriarchy” in an email about a prior episode.
In this episode we talk about:
How psychological patriarchy differs from cultural patriarchy
What psychological patriarchy costs women… and what it costs men
The grave disservice I’d do in trying to help couples if I didn’t name the power imbalances our culture creates between men and women, large and small people, and people who earn more and their partners who earn less
How privilege leads us to confuse “safety” and “comfort”
And more
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“I wanted to dismantle the psychological patriarchy so that my husband and all the husbands have permission, to be erotic, to have desire, to have emotional hunger, to have vulnerability, to yearn to be comforted, and to flow between states of activity and receptivity of self reliance and have connection. On a day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute basis. I want more fluidity for us all.”
- Michele Lisenbury Christensen
Hot Moments in This Episode:
What do I mean by psychological patriarchy 6:10
The effect of psychological patriarchy on men and women 7:48
Why men wind up blaming their wives for not being happy with them 10:30
What patriarchy teaches us 12:50
Why I wanted to dismantle the psychological patriarchy 14:04
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