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If you have a nervous system, you need this episode. It's the second part of an accessible and entertaining introduction to your nervous system and the crucial cranial nerve known as the Vagus Nerve.
If you ever:
- react strongly to your partner and want to fight or flee or both
- feel exhausted, at an emotional or energetic level, by your day
- feel like you just need time *alone* but seldom seem to get enough to want to reconnect
You'll learn how to notice what state you're in and discover specific ways to strengthen your vagal response so that, given time and care, you can gladly come back into connection.
As you listen to this episode, you'll hear about:
Part two of our conversation about your nervous system and how to make the most of it so that you can settle down.
How the nervous system is used to move ourselves from a frozen state to be able to access a "fight or flight" state and ultimately, to be able to access the most responsive, connected places.
Why the "fight or flight" response happens and how to recognize it in yourself and what to do when you're in it.
How the fight response ultimately not only affects your relationship and your love but also damages your bodies AND how YOU can to stimulate the vagus nerve so it will turn on a relaxation response
And more. Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Secret Society on Mighty Networks.
“If you're locked in battle with your partner all the time,
it's costing you. It's costing you physical health
and longevity to be in that state.
So if you think about it, by calling a timeout, or saying,
"Let's take a break. We'll come back to this when we're calmer."
That is, to your mind, escaping.
- Dr. Jessica Pullins
Hot Moments in This Episode:
Recap of part 1 and making the most of your nervous system so you can settle down (01:40)
Ways the nervous system reacts to a perceived threat and how to make the choice that is safest for your body (04:18)
Why even though we may not want to hurt people our nervous system may uncharacteristically act out & do so (06:19)
How recognizing, "Nothing good can come" can save a relationship (08:26)
The harmful cascade of stress chemicals when we are our nervous system is in a state of fight or flight (10:27)
How you can soothe your nervous system on your own by rubbing and pulling on your ears or smoothing your face with your hands (16:16)
I hope you find this episode helps you see some of your own and your partner’s nervous system responses in a refreshing new light. I hope it helps you remember your exquisite beauty, divinity, and intrinsic aliveness. And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.
Click here to download a free pdf self-regulation quick guide summarizing the tools mentioned in both episodes and more.
Click here to listen to this episode.
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