Welcome to the Sex.Love.Power. Podcast
Thought-provoking interviews, tools to make love & sex better, and intimate stories from real marriages (including mine) … all tied together by my mission to help powerful women live pleasure-drenched lives so we can create the justice and liberation we envision.
Whenever I say that I help couples create Legacy Love, the people I’m talking to light up because they're the kind of people who have a vision for their whole life. They want to leave a legacy in this lifetime and creating a love worth handing down, something that goes far beyond just the couple to bless others, appeals to them. But, as great as that sounds, a lot of people ask me, what do you really mean by Legacy Love and what does that entail?
In this episode, we’ll talk about:
The eight components of Legacy Love that I’ve identified (so far!)
Why you should care about Legacy Love
How you can heal and grow within your relationship
Ways that you can build towards something magnificent in your partnership
And more.
My wish for you is that you cultivate a Legacy Love that will energize and sustain you through the years. I hope that your love will continue to grow and that the light within and between you will illuminate the world around you.
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In this episode, I'll walk you through a couple of the ways that I've been helping clients for more than 20 years to review their old year and vision their new year. Visioning together is one of the foundations of Legacy Love; creating a relationship that's not just good, not just great, but builds your impact in the world, the legacy you want to leave behind, for not just you and your beloved, but your family, your community and the greater world.
In this episode, we’ll talk about:
How to use your relationship desires as catalysts for your own deeper growth.
How to become more growth-oriented in your marriage without overwhelming or hurting your partner.
Choosing your goals and relationship aspirations and breaking them down into the very next step.
Practical tips and exercises you can use on an hourly, daily, weekly, monthly, quarterly, and annual basis to move toward your vision
And more.
Why I recommend starting your visioning process with your bucket list (7:33)
Creating a treasure map to your best future self. (10:07)
Thinking of your household as a business (14:38)
Why I plan annual adventures with my husband (16:20)
I hope that you both embrace being each other’s guardian angel for who you're each becoming. I wish for you many joyful years of partnering together to bring about what you most want in your shared life.
Are you subscribed to my podcast? If you’re not, I want to encourage you to do that today. I don’t want you to miss an episode. I’m adding a bunch of bonus episodes to the mix and if you’re not subscribed there’s a good chance you’ll miss out on those. Click here to subscribe in iTunes!
Now if you’re feeling ultra-loving, I would be profoundly grateful if you left a review for me over on iTunes, too.
5-star reviews help more women find my podcast - and thereby have better love and sex - and your review will also be so fun for me to go in and read! Totally your good deed for the day! Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know your favorite thing about the podcast. Thank you so much!
How far are you willing to go to create the passionate marriage you want? Are you ready to try anything? If you’re like many of my clients, you’re willing to do whatever it takes to create a connected, turned-on relationship. And I believe you can do it. Unfortunately, there’s no silver bullet that will resolve your conflicts and create closeness. You may have already tried many different strategies but still don’t see the desired results. In today’s episode, I’m going to talk about some of the solutions you can try in your quest to have the kind of love and sex in your marriage that you want.
In this episode, you’ll hear about:
Different types of strategies you might try when you want more from your marriage
The resources and tools my clients or I have used in each of the categories
Common issues that arise with each of these strategies
What to do when you feel like you’ve tried everything
And more.
“Fix us” solutions, vs “fix me” solutions (8:40)
Why you feel more responsible for the relationship (11:00)
Ways you may be distracting yourself from your deeper desires (14:45)
The revolution that you can join right now (20:00)
Wherever you are on this ultimate journey of depth and devotion, and whatever your next step is, I wish you all the best. I want for you the love, sex, pleasure and intimacy with yourself, your partner and the divine that you want..
Are you subscribed to my podcast? If you’re not, I want to encourage you to do that today. I don’t want you to miss an episode. I’m adding a bunch of bonus episodes to the mix and if you’re not subscribed there’s a good chance you’ll miss out on those. Click here to subscribe in iTunes!
Now if you’re feeling ultra-loving, I would be profoundly grateful if you left a review for me over on iTunes, too.
5-star reviews help more women find my podcast - and thereby have better love and sex - and your review will also be so fun for me to go in and read! Totally your good deed for the day! Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know your favorite thing about the podcast. Thank you so much!
If you feel like you are wasting your time and energy being upset about the same things month after month, year after year, the good news is that there’s a way out. You can break the cycle of hurt and resentment that keeps you from living the life you want. Sound good? Today's episode will equip you to free yourself from any grudge, irritation, frustration, resistance or anger that you may be carrying and take your power back.
In this episode, you’ll hear about:
What I've learned about digging into the stuck places in relationships
The surprising place where I learned the most powerful tool in my arsenal for discovering what's keeping us stuck.
My step-by-step guide to the “resentment remodeling process”
How I use the tool in my own life, using a real example (we’re getting real personal!)
And more.
My tendency to “go hard or go home” (4:49)
Why boring tasks are excruciating for your partner with ADD (10:49)
How ADD tendencies affect us in bed (12:45)
Neurodiversity that you may notice in your relationship (13:42)
My hope is that this tool brings you great peace and helps you return to your power. And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.
Are you subscribed to my podcast? If you’re not, I want to encourage you to do that today. I don’t want you to miss an episode. I’m adding a bunch of bonus episodes to the mix and if you’re not subscribed there’s a good chance you’ll miss out on those. Click here to subscribe in iTunes!
Now if you’re feeling ultra-loving, I would be profoundly grateful if you left a review for me over on iTunes, too.
5-star reviews help more women find my podcast - and thereby have better love and sex - and your review will also be so fun for me to go in and read! Totally your good deed for the day! Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know your favorite thing about the podcast. Thank you so much!
In my coaching practice and in my life, I hear so many questions about family planning; how to decide, when to start, and how many kids to have. The list goes on. There are strong societal expectations around becoming parents that can keep us from realizing what we really want and what’s best for us and our relationships. In this episode, I decided to round up my thoughts on some of the common questions I get around children and their effect on relationship that you may be considering
In this episode, we’ll discuss:
Understanding and navigating differences in your and your partner’s desire to have kids
Deciding if you’re ready to be a parent and what your timeline is
How to consider your relationship and lifestyle when starting or growing your family
What I did to prepare for our first baby
Taking care of the relationship once you have children
And more.
My tendency to “go hard or go home” (4:49)
Why boring tasks are excruciating for your partner with ADD (10:49)
How ADD tendencies affect us in bed (12:45)
Neurodiversity that you may notice in your relationship (13:42)
I hope that today's podcast can help you have conversations in a more productive way and feel like your pains are actually doorways to more closeness, deeper intimacy and more joy together. And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.
Are you subscribed to my podcast? If you’re not, I want to encourage you to do that today. I don’t want you to miss an episode. I’m adding a bunch of bonus episodes to the mix and if you’re not subscribed there’s a good chance you’ll miss out on those. Click here to subscribe in iTunes!
Now if you’re feeling ultra-loving, I would be profoundly grateful if you left a review for me over on iTunes, too.
5-star reviews help more women find my podcast - and thereby have better love and sex - and your review will also be so fun for me to go in and read! Totally your good deed for the day! Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know your favorite thing about the podcast. Thank you so much!
While I’m not a clinical psychology professional, I often work with couples who have discovered that their brains are wired in completely different ways. This realization often arises when one partner (or both) consistently behaves in a way that creates friction between them, totally baffling the other. As humans, our brains are wonderfully diverse and have unique strengths, but it’s hard to understand what’s going on in your partner’s head when their experience is so different from your own. Today, I’ll share my perspective on recognizing the differences between you and your partner and how those insights can help us see the same patterns in a very different context.
As you listen to this episode, you’ll hear about:
How being diagnosed with ADD affected me and my relationship
Some of the unique challenges and strengths of partners with ADD
Tools and strategies I have used to become a better partner to my “neurotypical” husband
How I have seen neurodiversity (including Autism Spectrum Disorder, introversion, and intensities) play out within relationships
The importance of taking responsibility for the impact you have on the people around you
And more.
Note: I use the term “ADD” in this episode to refer to what is now categorized in the DSM-5 as “ADHD predominantly inattentive type” because it is the term used when I was diagnosed.
My tendency to “go hard or go home” (4:49)
Why boring tasks are excruciating for your partner with ADD (10:49)
How ADD tendencies affect us in bed (12:45)
Neurodiversity that you may notice in your relationship (13:42)
I hope that today's podcast can help you have conversations in a more productive way and feel like your pains are actually doorways to more closeness, deeper intimacy and more joy together. And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.
Are you subscribed to my podcast? If you’re not, I want to encourage you to do that today. I don’t want you to miss an episode. I’m adding a bunch of bonus episodes to the mix and if you’re not subscribed there’s a good chance you’ll miss out on those. Click here to subscribe in iTunes!
Now if you’re feeling ultra-loving, I would be profoundly grateful if you left a review for me over on iTunes, too.
5-star reviews help more women find my podcast - and thereby have better love and sex - and your review will also be so fun for me to go in and read! Totally your good deed for the day! Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know your favorite thing about the podcast. Thank you so much!
If it feels like you're in a dry spell- your desires don’t match up, you’re not that interested, or it’s hard to transition from your everyday life to a really fulfilling sexual encounter, this episode is for you. Today I want to talk with you about what I think of as "nano sex." It's those little microscopic, erotic connections that create a lubricant in your day-to-day experience together to help us get to full-blown erotic encounters and get more pleasure out of our daily connection.
As you listen to this episode, you’ll learn:
What “nano eroticism” is and how it has benefitted me and my clients
How creating small, ongoing erotic connections can increase your desire to have sex
Concrete strategies I teach my private clients to help them create more turn on
How to combine this practice with other habits for a great relationship
And more.
Ways to see yourself as an erotic being (6:15)
When you think someone else is sexier than your partner (8:16)
What is the “eyes habit”? (9:39)
Using humor to turn yourself and your partner on (11:28)
I hope that today's podcast can help you have conversations in a more productive way and feel like your pains are actually doorways to more closeness, deeper intimacy and more joy together. And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.
Are you subscribed to my podcast? If you’re not, I want to encourage you to do that today. I don’t want you to miss an episode. I’m adding a bunch of bonus episodes to the mix and if you’re not subscribed there’s a good chance you’ll miss out on those. Click here to subscribe in iTunes!
Now if you’re feeling ultra-loving, I would be profoundly grateful if you left a review for me over on iTunes, too.
5-star reviews help more women find my podcast - and thereby have better love and sex - and your review will also be so fun for me to go in and read! Totally your good deed for the day! Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know your favorite thing about the podcast. Thank you so much!
Something your partner did cause you pain and frustration. You want to tell them what hurt you, but you seem to always end up in a fight when you bring it up. Sound familiar? In this episode, I get into the specifics of how you can deliver feedback about something your partner did and what you'd like them to do differently in a way that actually gets results. Every single couple has to have these conversations, but you can develop skills that can reduce the negative fallout and even bring you closer.
As you listen to this episode, you’ll hear about:
What NOT to do in an emotionally-charged conversation
The steps you can use every time to have conversations that help you feel closer
How to remember the point of these conversations when you're in the middle of it
Reducing the amount of residual pain that comes from messy conversations
Why and how to take ownership of your feelings in a conversation
And more.
Why you shouldn’t “air your grievances” (3:57)
How a laminated checklist helped my relationship (9:41)
Why you might set a time limit on your conversations (11:08)
The “cheap booby prize” you may be taking instead of satifaction (15:02)
I hope that today's podcast can help you have conversations in a more productive way and feel like your pains are actually doorways to more closeness, deeper intimacy and more joy together. And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.
Are you subscribed to my podcast? If you’re not, I want to encourage you to do that today. I don’t want you to miss an episode. I’m adding a bunch of bonus episodes to the mix and if you’re not subscribed there’s a good chance you’ll miss out on those. Click here to subscribe in iTunes!
Now if you’re feeling ultra-loving, I would be profoundly grateful if you left a review for me over on iTunes, too.
5-star reviews help more women find my podcast - and thereby have better love and sex - and your review will also be so fun for me to go in and read! Totally your good deed for the day! Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know your favorite thing about the podcast. Thank you so much!
Recognizing when its a state vs when it’s a trait (11:24)
When otherwise articulate people lose the ability to speak (13:33)
Common triggers of freeze states (16:03)
Learning to notice freeze response by noticing it in your partner and others (27:27)
Listen to Episode 7 to hear Part II of the Self-Regulation Toolkit, where we’ll talk more about the fight or flight response, how to regulate when it’s activated, and how to reach the social connection state, where the prefrontal cortex is. online and we can relate and communicate in satisfying ways.
I hope you find this episode helps you see some of your own and your partner’s nervous system responses in a refreshing new light. I hope it helps you remember your exquisite beauty, divinity, and intrinsic aliveness. And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.
Are you subscribed to my podcast? If you’re not, I want to encourage you to do that today. I don’t want you to miss an episode. I’m adding a bunch of bonus episodes to the mix and if you’re not subscribed there’s a good chance you’ll miss out on those. Click here to subscribe in iTunes!
Now if you’re feeling ultra-loving, I would be profoundly grateful if you left a review for me over on iTunes, too.
5-star reviews help more women find my podcast - and thereby have better love and sex - and your review will also be so fun for me to go in and read! Totally your good deed for the day! Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know your favorite thing about the podcast. Thank you so much!
