049: Unmet Needs

EPISODE SHOW NOTES

Think for a moment about what conditions you thrive under, what sets you up to be your happiest, your healthiest, most balanced, joyful self. When that thing is missing it functions like a rock in your shoe. You're able to keep walking, but it’s just a little bit more painful. That’s how an unmet need can feel and how it can create tension and unhappiness in your life. Today, I want to address what needs are and what they aren't, and how you know. We'll talk about what's possible when your needs get met, and what to do when they're not.

As you listen to this episode, we’ll talk about:

  • The categories of needs that people often come to me about

  • How to distinguish between “wants” and “desires” and how they overlap

  • Signs that you may have unmet needs

  • Patterns that individuals and couples fall into when they have unmet needs

  • Approaches you can use to get your needs met

  • Unraveling myths and misconceptions around your needs

And more. 

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“Desires are the marching orders that the divine writes on our hearts. They speak to who we are to be in this world.”

- Michele Lisenbury Christensen 

Hot Moments in This Episode:

  • The difference between my approach and Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs (3:32)

  • The most amazing thing about needs (13:00)

  • What to try if an unmet need feels like an emergency (14:53)

  • What the “portfolio approach” is and how to make it work for you (18:21)


I hope that you're taking away a bright vision of yourself as an organism that has needs that you might not have pinpointed yet, but that you can get acquainted with. And I hope that you can see that when you honor those needs, you do a service not just to yourself, but to your partner and everyone you're close to and truly to the whole world.

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