004: Safe surrender. Asking him to lead. Erotic transcendence.
So many women tell me, "I wish he would just take charge in the bedroom." As you listen to this episode, you'll hear about:
- how sexual trauma can contribute to a "I don't know what I want - don't ask me!" freeze response
- the transcendent potential of erotic surrender - the magic that can happen for both partners when one takes charge in bed
- how to ask your partner (of any gender) for this kind of leadership
- how busy brains can stop us from getting present for sex, and how surrender can help
And more. Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Secret Society on Mighty Networks.
"What's so remarkable and paradoxical is that by being led...
by
being safely submissive, by being held...
I feel this optimization of my spirit."
Dr. Jessica Pullins
Hot Moments in This Episode:
Stigmatized Sexuality & Body Shaming (2:54)
The “What would you like?” Freeze Response (4:05)
The Receptive Trance State (8:00)
Intellectualizing Sex (12:41)
The Safety He Needs to Be Assertive (16:38)
Transactional Turn-off (17:11)
I hope you find this episode helps you see some of your own and your partner’s experiences in a refreshing new light. I hope it helps you remember your exquisite beauty, divinity, and intrinsic aliveness. And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.
For further support, be sure to grab my free ebook “The 10 Habits to Make You 100% More Satisfied in Your Marriage within 30 Days or Less.”
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