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HOW GOOD CAN YOU STAND IT?

If you can imagine more pleasure, more intimacy, more aliveness... It's because you need it.  But because no one's taught us to have the kind of love we long for, just about everyone  winds up in the wrong love... even when they're with the right person!

I offer coaching for individuals and for couples, plus online courses, all to help you create the love and sex you want.  

Whether you desire less conflict, more excitement, better communication, or new confidence, I'll help you create it.  And even though we're working on your relationship, you don't BOTH necessarily have to work with me.


IS THIS FOR YOU?

People work with me on their own when they're:

- Dating and wanting a better experience and results

- Trying to decide whether to leave a relationship or work on it, and how to do either

- Working through a divorce or its aftermath

- Ready to develop more confidence, self-awareness, and skill in some area of sexuality, relationship, pleasure, receptivity, or communication

- Or wanting to improve a relationship with a partner who's not interested in coaching (or ready for it, just yet).

Couples come to this work together when they want a trusted ally to help them:

- Fight less and feel more heard, understood, respected and cherished

- Get onto the same page about sex: how often? when? what do we do? how do we talk about it?

- Parent together in a satisfying way

- Adjust to a change that's disrupted the way they relate  (for example: a new child, an infidelity, extended-family or financial circumstances, a health situation, or newfound clarity about what one or both of you want)

- Shed their old inherited patterns - from our culture or their families - and create "our" way" of relating, communicating, deciding, and giving and receiving love

HOW coaching with me WORKs

  • We start with identified goals.  I help you discern patterns and skill gaps that get in the way, plus the habits and approaches that will accelerate your progress.  We track and touch base on progress monthly.It's flexible.  I work with individuals and with couples, on both 1:1 and 1:2 calls.  We design your program to match your coaching needs, schedule, and budget.
     
  • It's convenient.  Most of my work is via Zoom conference or phone, but I also meet with clients at my home office in N. Seattle and occasionally elsewhere.  I mainly work during the day on weekdays, but also make some evening times available if that's essential.
     
  • You make a decision, then rest into it.  Once you've chosen to work with me and set your goals, we're in the express lane and you don't have to decide, "should we get off at this exit?" Your goals will tell you when you're done.  Until then, your next session is in about 2 weeks, not "when we need it."  This work makes a big difference, and often quite quickly, but part what drives our success is commitment:  I'm "all in" from day one, and my clients get very committed within the first session or two.  People do come to me wanting "just enough" to reduce their suffering, but after the first session, if that's still all they want, I share other resources rather than coaching with them.
     
  • I'm direct, directive, fiercely loving, and I'll go to the mat with both of you.  We'll waste no time with "just listening" or leaving you in the muck once we've identified what's not working.  I'll show you concrete, effective ways out, and I'll tell you straight-up what you need to stop (and start) doing to create what you want.  No "neutral 3rd party" here: I'll share specific feedback with both of you.  It's refreshing and very effective.
     
  • We maintain focus.  We track your goals and identify behaviors we all agree will move the dial in creating those outcomes.  You get accountable inside your relationship the way you've perhaps been at work or with your trainer, but probably never before in love.  I won't let you drift if you lose the thread of what we're building.  When things go better, you know why, and when they don't, you know what created the problem.  
     
  • We buckle up and stick it out, and we're glad we did.  We meet at least twice a month for 4-6 months to create meaningful, durable change.  After that, we finish what we started and/or then we graduate to periodic tune-ups.  You pay for coaching by the month and we keep meeting in service of your goals, even if you have a busy month or go on a trip or are "doing better."  That way, we never lose momentum, and you never lose track of what you're working on.  Variable enthusiasm for the process is expected, but should never be confused with being "done" or the process "not working."
     
  • Your commitment is to your desires, not to me.  While I ask you to stay with your own growth process, you can quit coaching with me any time if it's not serving your goals, without pressure or financial penalty.  

TWO WAYS TO WORK:

THE LOVING FOR GOOD PROGRAM

RELATIONSHIP COACHING FOR COUPLES

This 9 month program combines succinct training, expert Q&A, and a quick monthly coaching call.  It's for couples who just want a light "tune-up" or individuals who want to build skill at giving and receiving the love they really want.  The investment is just $99 per month.

Couples can expect to invest $600 per month.  The three of us meet for two 90-minute sessions per month for 4-6 months, initially.  Many people create faster, better results by adding an individual 30 or 50 minute meeting with me every month or two.

  

how to learn more and get started

We start with a one-time, stand-alone coaching session.  We get a genuine sample of what it's like to work together.  The first time we meet, I want to learn about you, your desires, and your current situation.  

I ask a number of questions up front, starting when you schedule and pay.  In our call, I'm both curious AND directive: I listen a lot but I also make observations, translate what you're not hearing from your partner (whether they're on the call or not) and teach ideas and skills that will make a difference in your results.

You'll walk away from this first session with at least one concrete outcome: clarity on a decision, language for what you need to say, new understanding of a dynamic or pattern, or a plan for creating something new.  

If you want to explore working with me with your partner, your first call can just be for yourself or it can be a 2-hour call for you both.  

If two people come together to the first session, we coach for about 90 minutes, but the appointment is 2 hours.  I save some time to share what I'm hearing about your relationship, what you want, the skills you'll need to learn, and how I'd help you reach your goals.  

 


COACHING FEES & PAYMENT

My coaching is on a fee-for-service basis.  Relationship services are seldom reimbursed by health insurance.  Some companies' employee assistance programs will pay or reimburse for coaching.  
The first session is paid upon scheduling.  Subsequent coaching is billed on a monthly basis.

Relationship coaching rates:

50 minute session  - $200
90 minute session  - $300
110 minute session - $400

In keeping with market rates, executive coaching and business coaching are billed at $300 per coaching hour or multiple thereof.

 

MORE ABOUT COACHING WITH ME

 

 

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