You're allowed to need time (even lots and lots of time) alone in order to be balanced and happy. Even when you love someone. You're allowed to want things they don't yet know how to give you. Even when you love them.
Instead of telling him, "I want you to touch me and lick me and penetrate me… But I'm mad at you, too." Instead of telling him, "I need you to take more time. I need you to touch more places. I need you to shine a light on my beauty, not just on your urge."
Create microscopic erotic connections that act as a lubricant in your day to day experience together to help you get to full blown erotic encounters, whether those are penetrative or not.
These are the four keys to creating more of the heat and connection you want and the single practice I use to help couples expand all four things in their relationship, and in so doing, create the love and sex they really deserve.
So often, couples will come to me and at least one of them will say, in essence, "I want to feel more turned on in this relationship” as if our turn-on were created by our partner and brought to us on a platter. My experience is that turn-on is something we create within ourselves.
We’ve argued over it many times: me micromanaging him, saying too much in all my eagerness to be helpful, to add value.
After I caught a firsthand glimpse of what recovery looks like from one of my clients in late 2017, I have systematically, one compulsion at a time, been bricking off the familiar exits from the full sensations of the present.
Great friend. Caring father. Labor-sharer at home. Kind heart. Hot lover.
A lot of men fit most of these except that last one. Guys determined to be kind, feminist beings definitely make great life partners.
But often they wind up in my coaching practice saying “everything’s great between us except the sex.” And the same thing happened in my own marriage. Here are 3 reasons good guys often aren’t great lovers once they’re married:
I'm here to help both of you have a peaceful and joyful way of moving through a review process that lets you capture the gems from the past year, set intentions for the coming year, and keep your relationship on a powerful trajectory.
Here’s why gift-giving in relationships can get so frustrating and what you can do to feel successful, to have your partner feel loved, and to be closer than ever after this holiday season
If you’ve found yourself feeling not-so-into sex - like you yourself never have the urge, and like even when your partner initiates, you’re noooootttt interested… but you wish you were, this article is for you.
What should you do when you have been asking for what you need and you find yourself asking, “Am I an idiot for staying when I’ve made it clear what I need and my partner doesn’t seem to be changing?”
I’ve helped many people look at how they can know “The One”when they find them - or already have them. From decades of experience with this question, I’ve distilled five key indicators that help you know that your partner is or isn’t The One for you.
A lot of women come to me saying, “I love how gentle and considerate my husband is but sometimes I want to be kissed hard and slammed up against the wall by his hips!” They want their loving partners to also be a little - or a LOT - assertive in the bedroom
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I was a born-again virgin. Not for religious reasons. I just knew that every time I had sex with someone new, I couldn't help but give them a piece of my heart.