EPISODE SHOW NOTES
If you have a male partner who avoids sex or gets stuck in his head sometimes during sex or about sex this episode is for you.
If you or your partner struggle with what the industry tends to call “sexual dysfunction” - which is so pejorative - I do not like any of the medical terms at all - from erections that don’t start or that don’t stay, to ejaculating before you’d like to, not ejaculation when you’d expect to… This episode is for you.
If you are or your partner is a man who is comfortable with sex as long as he’s in control or in charge, or as long as the attention is on the other person, not on him, this episode will be helpful.
And really for anyone who is a man, cares about a man, or walks through the world among men, I believe this episode is really important because it talks about something we don’t talk about: and that’s the underreported, under-discussed epidemic of men’s sexual trauma.
This is such an important episode to me because time and again, my male clients will tell me “I’ve never told anybody about this” or “Nobody explains this the way you just did, and it feels like huge burden has been lifted.” I’m on a mission to lift that burden, to give that relief, to help as many men as possible to feel seen and understood and that they’re normal and they’re not broken and they’re not alone!
We’re going to talk about a couple of key things today:
What sexual trauma is and how common it is among men
The ways sexual trauma is inflicted for men
Ways the conversation is silenced around men’s sexual trauma
Signs that you or a man you love is having a trauma response in the sexual realm
And more.
Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response inside our free Conscious Couples’ Circle on Mighty Networks.
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- Michele Lisenbury Christensen
Hot Moments in This Episode:
What does sexual dysfunction mean, anyway? 1:01
Neglecting their healthy sexual development traumatizes boys and young men 8:28
The pervasive cultural messages men get about sex, men, and women 10:46
Do painful experiences make you less a man? 18:36
If it felt good, does that mean you wanted it? 20:18
Signs a man is dealing with sexual trauma 22:41
I hope you find this episode helps you see some of your own and your partner’s experiences in a refreshing new light. I hope it helps you remember your exquisite beauty, divinity, and intrinsic aliveness. And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.
If you’re suffering from sexual trauma and need help, you can call RAINN (Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network)’s National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1 (800) 656-4673
Available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week via phone and online chat
If you want support and guidance from me to create the kind of love and s€x you dream of having, and to clear out any muck that blocks you from that experience, reach out.
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