EPISODE SHOW NOTES
If a man is a good guy, that actually INCREASES his chances of having problems in the bedroom. Why? Many caring, sensitive, emotionally open men are good friends, partners, and parents… and when it comes to s€x with their wives… They shrink, fizzle, or need things Just. So. or they can’t be there. In today’s episode, I’ll talk about why it’s such a confusing time to be a good man, how our culture messes with men’s heads around sex, and what we can do about it.
This episode spills:
Why good men often avoid being erotic
How cultural messages kneecap our sexuality
The pleasurable possibilities on the other side of admitting there’s a problem
How to find the secret to what fuels our sexual expression
And more.
Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples’ Circle on Mighty Networks.
"There's an epidemic happening among good men: an epidemic of needlessness and wantlessness. It's causing tremendous pain in their marriages, because a man who has pushed down his needs and wants isn't a very potent man."
- Michele Lisenbury Christensen
Hot Moments in This Episode:
Why loving, wonderful husbands avoid sex in some way. 00:39
Your past experience of love, goodness & worthiness matter now. 01:47
The whole truth to finding the path to happiness. 04:30
Are you throwing out your life-giving desires without realizing it? .08:12
Discover the cost of being too good. 10:32
The difference in sexuality to a yin & a yan essence brain. 12:03
How to unlock your truth in ways that are respectful & kind 16:50
I know that a man who has ambivalence about erotic connection is in a lot of pain, and that his pain and confusion trigger a lot of pain and insecurity in his partner, too. If you’ve been frustrated and hurting about the ways you or your partner pull away from s€x or have conflicting feelings about it, I hope this episode has helped you understand better what has created the tangled dynamics and where you can begin to navigate this fraught territory.
You're always invited to ask questions and share your reactions and results from each episode. You can post in the question thread in the private community at Conscious Couples’ Circle or leave us a voicemail at 206-659-9865. My wish for you is that you have a deep, sweet, hot connection in the bedroom, beyond the reaches of cultural pressures, where there’s only the two of you and the magical, mysterious power of pleasure.
If you want support and guidance from me to create the kind of love and s€x you dream of having, and to clear out any muck that blocks you from that experience, reach out.
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