024: Expanding Erotic Intelligence
EPISODE SHOW NOTES
In this episode, we're having the conversation we need to have about the four keys to creating more of the heat and connection you want and the single practice I use to help couples expand all four things in their relationship, and in so doing, create the love and sex they really deserve.
If you've had a hard time initiating sex, or taking your partner up on their invitations, when they ask in the way they ask, even though you sincerely would like to have more sex, at least in the abstract, this is for you.
Or if you aren't sure how to ask for more of what you want or you think your partner could build more skill at touching and being present sexually, but it's hard to describe what that skillfulness would look like...This is for you.
Or if you notice that you have a hard time staying present in erotic situations: truly letting your partner in and allowing yourself to deeply receive their attention, their touch, and their care...This is for you.
If you face those challenges, you are in very good company. Nobody taught any of us how to have great sex, and a nourishing partnership with a grown up in these changing bodies and with these adult responsibilities: aging parents and growing kids and big careers....While we're trying to build a better world. It's a lot!
And I am determined that today's episode will help, because I would like you to get a handle on these four keys, so you can unlock the best sex of your lives. I know it's still ahead of you, whether you believe that yet or not. And in this episode, you will learn how to create it.
There are four things that dramatically accelerate a couple's ability to go deeper in love and sex. They include clarity, capacity, communication, and container, we're going to go into all four of them. So let's dive in.
In this episode:
Why getting to the amount and quality of sex we want has gotten trickier, even if we used to be really great together
The four things we need in order to take things deeper in sex and closeness
The ONLY four things you need to convey to your partner during sex to keep things hot
And more.
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HOT MOMENTS IN THIS EPISODE:
Four things that dramatically accelerate a couple's ability to go deeper in love and sex 2:24
Expanding your clarity for erotic connection with yourself and your partner 4:01
How do we know we had sex? 5:39
Four things to be able to have the best sex of your lives 13:18
Make an offer instead of trying to read your partner’s mind 15:13
I wish for you the best love and erotic connection that you can imagine. And I would love to hear about it as you create it. My wish for you and for our community is that you'll join the conversation over on the Conscious Couples' Circle. It's a great place to ask your questions, share your experiences, and join the conversation about creating the love and sex that you deeply desire in ways that evolve you both. That's all happening at Conscious Couples' Circle.
RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Sex.Love.Power Episode 23 - Talking About Sex
RECOMMENDED BOOKS:
Women’s Anatomy of Arousal by Sheri Winston
Extended Massive Orgasm by Steve & Vera Bodansky
If you want support and guidance from me to create the kind of love and s€x you dream of having, and to clear out any muck that blocks you from that experience, reach out.
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